Talking about the past over and over like PTSD survivors do till it not longer phases them?
More affection and security from hubby? For him to lean on more for support during your hurting times?
Writing letter after letter to the OW and/or to hubby venting your hurt and anger and then leaving them somewhere? (I typed long emails and just saved them- felt good)
My hubby asked me once... "what the hell do you want from me?"
I realized I really didn't know. I really thought about it and I realized I wanted him to take away the hurt he had caused me.
I later told him this and told him what things I needed from him to facilitate that. And it worked. He worked on changing himself becuase he liked the changes it brought in me.
What would work for you?
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
