I am never coming back !!!!!!!!

[braveheart]

IRMA, why the name change?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Regardless I think the name change is AWESOME.

Although Ilikemenow : )

I think you were a bit harsh with MrBond.

[iluvme55]

I was, and I want to apologize to MrBond, and I will.....something just kinda of stirred up inside me maybe the new name change......gonna do that right now.....thanks JTB.
Yea I like my new name to...cause I really do like me now...God bless you sweetie...

[iluvme55]

Well it's official another MLC in my family...my oldest daughter.
Suspected about a yr ago but she is acting and saying the same things to her husband.
Wearing younger clothes,hair,car.Keeps saying she is tired of being married.Telling her husband she wishes she was single,constant fighting in front of the children,spewing all over the place.Has a friend who is an enabler to it.
Maybe I am old fashioned but I thought your bf would not enable such behaviour....maye she is going thru one herself.
A darn shame they have been married 23 yrs just a few days ago.
She has been struggling with this for well over a yr.
You cant talk to her, cant tell her anything,has no concern whether the girls are home alone or not,spends her entire time away from home with her bff.
Grandkids are 12 and 16 they arent babies any more but it is so obvious she could care less what they are doing.
I know all we can do is come in here and vent and ask for your prayers.
She is a big time monster right now, we had a big fight the other night with me trying to remind her of the pain and destruction that comes when people start doing the things that are now going on i/e my husband left.
All she says now to me is I AM IN A MIDLIFE CRISIS MOM....OK.LEAVE ME ALONE.yelling at me that my husband in never coming back....that I have always tried to control her ( I wish) NOTHING BUT SPEWING SPEWING SPEWING...
Just when I thought I was in a better place now this!!!!!

[job]

I'm sorry to hear that your daughter is in crisis. You know the drill....be there to support your daughter and her family, but keep in mind....she's got to go through the entire process. The husband will need support, but most importantly, your grandchildren are going to need more support than ever. Thank goodness they are not toddlers!

I do hope that you are taking care of yourself. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[iluvme55]

I am taking care of myself and doing lots of praying, so hard to see your own child go thru this, I never would of thought I would go thru this again.
She has seen the destruction it causes but she refuses to see it that way any longer.
Please keep us in your prayers .....another long journey for us all....I love her so much, she was my strength when this was all new to me....she gave me hope and prayed and held me like a child crying when they got hurt......
Maybe this is all my fault for making her go thru this with me.... I was the mom, not her, but yet I fell apart and she held me....I know God has his plans for us all, but some sure are hard journey's.I am sure compared to other people who have lost children to pain and suffering and even death I am so blessed not to have that happen to her....I am thankful for that....

[iluvme55]

Well I was so surprised when my husband came to see us...it has been a yr since we saw him...He and his O/W have moved back to Texas about 3 hrs away much closer than 17 hrs. He looked really happy to see us. He came in and I hugged him and he hugged me back. we went and visited my mom and some other family....he took out our daughter for dinner they had a good time which is wonderful I want her to have some kind of relationship with her father. He hasnt been one lately to her but all went well, just as he was leaving I could tell he wanted to hug me but he couldnt....so I hugged him and again he did the same. am so glad it went well, I think he thinks I am going to cuss him out or hit or something like he doesnt know how I will react...I am just so happy for my dughter she said to me it felt good when we were all together she said it felt like her family again.....God bless her...just an update no expectations very civil....the way it should be...

[K4D]

Well Ilikemenow,

Glad to see the change in attitude and name. Sounds like you handled things very well with your husband and the visit. I am glad you haven't given up on praying. The only 2 people that are going to bring your H back are God and changes in you.

I like it.

Kevin

[iluvme55]

Hi Kevin I didnt know you still look around in here.I cant remember if i Have you on F/B I know the rules in here about sharing emails so if you could let me know thru email how I can find you on f/b have a blessed sunday and yes only the Lord can change things..
I picked the new name because I am really liking myself now.....with God all things are possible

[K4D]

From time to time I still check in on here. I sent you a F/B request.

Kevin