SA, Thanks so much for your kind words. Some days lately I don't feel like I am doing as well as I could/should be but am working on it.:) This journey is what we make it and I don't want to be one that becomes bitter and hardened.
I do too think he is making his way out. Slowly. There are just so many ways I see him being like his "old" self, even ways I haven't seen since well before the bomb. Just trying to be patient. Some of the things he has done for me are things I don't think he would if he didn't care at least at some level.
The OW thing, I wish I thought there really wasn't one but I do strongly suspect an EA. He was just too strange about his phone even in the couple months leading up to the bomb. I don't have access to the phone records so no proof. I think it was a long distance EA that he may never qualify as more than a friendship. But the phone thing is really my only "evidence." A couple of comments he made early on made me suspect who it is, too. Time may tell. Or may not.
