Smile, I am so sorry but when I first read your post, I accidentally skipped over this line:

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He's subsequently become involved with my ex best friend although I suspect that this relationship started before he left.


This really changes my opinion...It has been 2.5 years, you filed for D, and you say he is becoming increasingly withdrawn. Yikes, I think you just go through with it quickly. Because what will change in the next 6 months? He is not showing ambivalence....Then you will be able to move on.

This is not to say that he is going to end up with OW because we all know the odds on that happening! And from what I read, it is very common for the WS to return to the BS but can take up to 2-5 years!!!!!

I don't recommend any pursuing especially if he is not showing any signs of interest.

Have you started dating yet?

Oh- and other people will probably reply to you on Monday!

Last edited by newmama; 05/16/10 01:49 PM.
me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004