I have come home to an emptied house....What next?

[Awoken]

I just quickly scanned your this thread again. I saw one person recommend changing locks, although I might have missed something.
One of the benefits of this site is that you can get advice from people that are NOT your friends and family. Friends and family want to help stop your pain, and as a result their advice is biased in your favor. I think DR explains it better.

There are two reasons I don't think you should change the locks.
Since she has already taken all the boys stuff, I presume you changing the locks will be some kind of statement, some way to get back at her for what she is doing. I don't think you should be doing anything that is motivated by "getting" her. Only you know what your true motivations are. Be sure you know why you want to do this, and be true to yourself. Take the high road. Only you know if this means changing the locks.

Second, do you know if you have the legal right to change them? I think you should be preparing yourself for future problems so that you can protect yourself and your children. That's why I think you should talk to a lawyer first.

There is usually less traffic here during the weekends, so hopefully Puppy, Robx, or one of the vets will show up soon with better advice for you.

hang in there, Gyn