James, I am not so sure it is about giving up. I think it has to be about making different choices.
No contact is for you and you only. It is for you to get your life on a better path. What your W does during a period of no contact is not something you can control.
Your W is a deeply disturbed woman... proven by the website she is on and the terrible lie she told you regarding custody of her own child. You cannot "fix" those kinds of issues.
Take care of your health so you can get back to work and start rebuilding.
I have to say, after stumbling my way through the last 4 months trying to convince myself that I can "win" my wife back with kindness, attention, and what I thought was "confident" pursuit I have finally come to COMPLETELY embrace what Rob preaches.
It really is just about the only thing you CAN do in these situations James.
You don't have to "give up", but you DO have to "move on".
She will probably never have an epiphany of what she lost. This is destroying me.
Today s3's mom calls my mother to ask her if she could watch s3 while she goes out of town. Mind you I'm not told anything about it.
I get disrespected and treated like trash.
I'm exhausted. I don't want to do this anymore. I'm really thinking of giving up on everything.
Everyday I wake up and still don't want to be here. Nobody understands what I'm trying to do.
Nobody gets it.
Can't see kids cause their mothers are jerks. WAW abandoned me. I'm sick and can't take this no more. NObody understands my depression.
Nobody understands me not being able to work even though I tried to do it. They don't understand all the appointments that were scheduled and then nothing happens.
Now in hindsight they stated I shouldn't have told them about the appointments.
I HATE THIS SHYT
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
i already held on a year. Going through losing my job, my kids, my home, all our money. Then to make progress then waw leave after getting blessings and us about to make it?
Why hold on? for what? I don't want to trade survivor war stories.
I want my family restored to what it was before.
*throws a book across the room*
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
I am sorry you feel this way. I know that this can be hard, and we are all pulling for you. You have to trust that no matter what happens, you will feel better over time.
Be strong for your kids if nothing else. I am sure they are worried if they see you in such pain.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
You can work your way through this. It's difficult -- at times seems impossible, but you can get through this. You must. For yourself, and for your kids, who you love so much. Hold steady. Be the source of strength in their lives. As they grow older and can appreciate you more and more, they will know that you found the courage to be there for them - to live your life so that you could be there when they need you... and they will need you.
Hold on. Even though right now your pain seems to be clouding your vision of the future. You must hold on. There are better days ahead. One thing is for certain ...things change... things always change. It's simply part of life.
For now - there is help for you -- call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1- 800-273-TALK (1- 800-273-8255) or 411 for help. Call right now.
