FWIW I believe your H is one of the rare ones that did not get involved with an ow. If he had you would have found evidence by now. You've known things were different for quite a while now and there is no way with your heightened awareness that he would have been able to 'hide' an ow for this length of time.
It sounds like he is making his way out of the tunnel and unfortunately LBS's are the last to be reconnected with. You are such an inspiration as your growth through your own journey is so visible.
Hugs to you as you dig a little deeper for more patience.
