When we were separated for 3months, I thought he was connected enough; I mean as much as you can be from a distance and also during the first trimester which is more about organising midwives and hospitals and not much about "the baby" as such. I was pretty pooped at the time, and going to bed by 8.30pm, which is around the time WH and I had to Skype each other because of the time difference, and at that hour I was usually irritable and out-of-my-mind-exhausted, and he had always just arrived at work and was stressed about the day ahead. Not ideal!
One time I remember he was really reluctant to engage with the pregnancy - it was right at the height of his affair - where I had to almost beg him to fill out a birth class form. He was irriated about doing it, saying how busy he was - just overall reluctant. I thought he was overworked and having a tantrum. Anway he did fill it in and email it back to me. He copied, literally, word for word my wishes for the birth..! Not an original thought in there..!
lol!, your WH's water obsession is funny! Our WHs share the irritated/hyper-critical traits. Hey, can you recall the last thing he did to 'participate' in the pregnancy?
If WH is naturally rather critical and irritated by nature, it really sounds like having a baby is just another pressure for him. Does that sound right to you?
