What would be so bad about texting that to him? Seems like it would fall under the category of Do Something Different. Boundary setting. At the very least he might think twice before he does something ignorant again.

How many times have you bent over backwards and been accommodating? I think the boy needs a 2x4 bashed over his head, 'cause he's still treating you like you're married and give a snot what he thinks about you.

I vote for saying some version of what you wrote here. Not for any other reason but that you speak up for yourself, set a boundary, and stop silently taking his crap.

The way your H acts, you'd think he was up there on a cross himself being the martyr of the world. Sheesh.

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!