The next time a discussion comes up about her apartment hunting :
"You are seriously going to put these children through a stressful separation just so you can pursue a selfish bad habit and ruin everyone's lives? Then these kids don't need a mother like that... "
And you walk away. DO NOT ARGUE the point, you state the point and walk away.
Every step of the way, every time a conversation has to happen you make it clear to her that SHE is choosing this instead of rebuilding her marriage... EVERY TIME a convo happens about this you reinforce that SHE is CHOOSING this and that she has an alternative... got it?
If she keeps rejecting the choice of rebuilding her marriage then you aren't throwing her out, she's walking out... let her walk.. she likley won't get far...
Again always check with your lawyer every step of the way.. and collect evidence every step of the way..
