Be mature enough to recognize that life is not always all about you and what feels good for you in the moment. If you are married and have children, you have an obligation and a commitment that far transcends what feels good.
If your wife insists on acting on what "feels good" to her to the detriment of her OWN CHILDREN then you have an obligation to protect these children and yourself from her. She is deluded into thinking her actions are not harming her chilren. How many hours has she invested in this man while neglecting her children?
Protect the children before one of them gets in an accident while she's too busy yapping on the phone to save them. She's not capable of managing children while she's addicted to an affair, she's proven that be allowing a separation.. THAT harms children and that is what SHE is accepting by refusing to end contact and to go to family therapy.
Dr McGraw also has a few other good points :
If you have children and you are cheating on your spouse, your children will suffer. You are turning their lives upside down, fracturing their family unit and destroying their peace and harmony.
The chance of a successful relationship born of infidelity is not even one in 100. A marriage that starts in infidelity has no foundation. You go into it with guilt, shame, angst, worry, and all the baggage that comes with that. Add to that managing your ex and going through possible custody battles for children.
It is unfair to compare a new, exciting, taboo fantasy relationship to one you've been in for years where there are kids, bills to pay, a house to run and noses to wipe. That is a ridiculous comparison.
You aren't tossing her out ken, she's CHOOSING separation over reconcilliation.
