Positive Lifetime Attitude Award Goes to...

[newmama]

It was 12 years ago, and he told me that he had asked for D long before I came along, she knew the score, he never loved her (sounding familiar?), he was sleeping on the couch... and I'm thinking, OMG, I was an A on his first W... well, he as much as came out and told MIL that I was. I feel like to achieve true forgiveness, I should apologize to her... any thoughts? I may not have known what was truly going on with them, but knowing what I know now about A's and knowing that H is capable of telling OW that he's never loved his W... well, it fits to me.

M&H, as a fellow BW, I have definitely recognized the difference between unsuspecting OPs and the ones who KNOW FULL WELL what is going on! (like the OW in my life-she knew who I was, was "friends"(lightly) with me, so noooooo sympathy for her!)

Now, for me, if I knew my WH was cheating and wanted a D but didn't know who she was, I would be dying to know anything about her! It would also comfort me to know that she had NO CLUE about the truth. I don't know what others would tell you, but I vote to reach out to her, in some gentle form. If she is not interested in talking to you, fine. So how would you contact her?