OK, I've got a question. Only asking out of curiosity.
S26 and DIL had a retirement party to attend today. Since H and S work together H was there too with ow in tow. S26 was mentioning putting up hay and H kept referring to the fields as 'our' fields. DIL mentioned that she and D11 seen a big snake and H said, "Oh, 'we' have snakes again?"
H was the one who left stating he wanted nothing more to do with the farm or the responsibility of it financially or otherwise. Why does he continue (done this before, too) to refer to it as if he's a part of it?