They look to you for signs of strength or weakness. To see whether you have really changed. To see whether pushing the old buttons gets the old reaction. Sometimes the old reactions may want to come to the fore but mostly because of the changes the LBS has gone through, those old reactions are gone and have been replaced by more mature and reasoned ones.
I think that they do have a fair bit of depression and we have to be compassionate. They may seem to have what they want but they are human and realize deep inside that it is all at a great price. It must be terrible to be in such internal conflict which is why they distract themselves so much to escape it.
