Hi smileuk,
Hmm. You ARE GALing and you said you are content. Are you sure you want him back (now)?

Quote:
maybe he feels that if I can get better now why didn't I when we were together?


You could be right- I have read others' threads where their spouses expressed these thoughts. BUT I bet he can't help but be attracted/drawn to you at the same time, right?

So you say he has withdrawn...have you done any pursuing during these 2.5 years? When was the last time you tried? Are you interested in cautiously reaching out, even a baby step? What are your thoughts/fears about this idea?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004