Did you move back home yet? I feel bad that your heart is breaking right now. I'm in almost the same sitch (no OW, but a H who seems to have lost his mind & hates me, not paying a lot of attention to his kids, same story...). My heart aches for the man I married, I can barely look at the pod person who has replaced my H.
The people here really know what they are talking about--listen to them! The only thing I can really say is to lose yourself in the links that you were given. Get the DR book, or the Laura Munson book "This Is Not The Story You Think It Is". A link to her column about the same thing is here
Honestly, get busy reading. You will see yourself & H in so much of it that it will feel like someone wrote it about you. You'll at least have some idea of what you are dealing with.
My heart still hurts & I wish that H would just snap out of it. But he's not going to and nothing I do is going to make it go faster, if at all. Now is the time to focus on you.
It's not easy, but you'll do it. Forget one day at a time, I'm fighting for every hour.
(((hugs))) to you, and can you give us a bit of an update as to where you are & what else has transpired?
Much love...
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
