As for my post regarding mediator vs. L, I have always taken great pride in my ability to teach myself vast amounts of things. I always have and always will. Yes, it is my responsibility to teach myself and I'm good at doing so. However, I was thrown into this with no warning. Not only has my husband left but I've also got to briskly figure out what to do about protecting myself, how to handle finances with no job, keep up a house by myself (which is nothing new), care for two children and their every need, find a job, apply for government assistance, keep logs of every breath taken by everyone for the attorney, bring my kids where they need to go, attend church and counseling with the deacon, read up on what I can do to save my marriage, make sure that my H gets every document he needs to pay the bills along with reminders REPEATEDLY, find a moment to grieve, ETC., ETC. So I have to admit that I don't think it all that irresponsible to hope that someone might send a little info my way to spare me one thing not to have to teach myself.
