My h left 2 1/2 years ago as he was unhappy with our r and felt that he would be happier on his own. We had been leading increasingly separate lives and I struggled to cope with the kids growing up and became depressed as I found it difficult to define myself as an individual after so many years being a mum. He's subsequently become involved with my ex best friend although I suspect that this relationship started before he left.
I've been successful in GAL and have moved to a place where I'm happy and content. I've worked on myself so I'm no longer the depressed and unconfident woman that he left. My outlook has changed from being negative to looking forward to the future. I'll be fine on my own and wouldn't rule out the possibility of meeting someone new in the future.
So the position now: I've filed as I was fed up with being in limboland. Over the past 2 1/2 years he's gradually distanced himself from me, first not coming into the house, then not inviting me to his family events, now he has trouble looking me in the eye. He has said that after the D he wants nothing more to do with me. He wants to conduct the D by email correspondence only. The gradual withdrawal has been the hardest to bear which is why I drew a line and filed.
At times it seems like I've let go better than him. I'm calmer in any dealings that I have with him. There still seems to be a bitterness about him, I doubt if he's acknowledged his part in the breakdown, he told me that it was mainly my fault. I know that he can see my changes but if anything this has made him more resentful - maybe he feels that if I can get better now why didn't I when we were together?
However he's still my H and I still love him. I've probably got about 6 months left on this M and would like to use that time to DB to the max!
I've got DR and have read it cover to cover.
Any thoughts/suggestions would be most appreciated.
