Hey 8, I've been MIA. So glad to read about the progress that you're making . Way to go girl! I'm going to keep calling you 8 because it's lucky but I agree with Mindfull that you're a ten.
Thanks, flowmom! I'm behind on your thread, too. Your popularity makes it hard to keep up with your goings-on!
Mindfull has ALL the best ideas! But seriously, thanks for agreeing with her.
Black best friend too sassy to take to any kind of yoga)
Laughter Yoga? This is wrong... just wrong... And, I'm w/Black best friend. Too dam* quiet. Too dam* focused. We just can't unleash our inner sass in a yoga studio. I tried once... Couldn't stand on one leg, too busy thinking about the Target run on the way home.
Originally Posted By: Number 8
Saturday afternoon: *pedicure and Chelsea Handler book *Target trip *quality time with iPod and lawnmower
Nix the lawnmower, and you have a perfect day, according to Mindfull... I have to get that new Chelsea Handler book. She, quite possibly, could hang w/us.
Saturday night sounds divine!!!! What's wrong w/a few fanny slaps when harboring a depressed H? NOTHING! Stick your rear back out and enjoy. LOVE that the black best friend asked you to stop dancing. It has happened to me a time or two... usually after I start the head spins. I, just plain, do not listen, though, and continue...
Originally Posted By: Number 8
*ate burger, fries, and milkshake for dinner
It's about time you ate, for crying out loud...
OK, on the Chats w/Father and Grandmother...
First of all, I just love that you wish him a Happy Mother's Day. LOL Appropriate!
Originally Posted By: Number 8
Father uses H's name like it's a swear word or horribly offensive term.
That's his job, ma'am.
My H uses HUH in the same manner as your Father. Nix the idea of Father and I bonding if he doesn't lose that habit!
Originally Posted By: Number 8
*father asked, "When's it gonna rain again? Put his $h!+ outside! Tell him to COME ON!!"
I love this man.
TEN, there's a lot of freakin' reckoning going on... And, how dare you intrude on Grandmother's booty call!
Originally Posted By: Number 8
Mindfull has ALL the best ideas!
Oh, God, you're doomed if you follow my lead! But, you'll have a hell of a lot of fun!
We really need to catch up, ya know?
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Saturday sounded great. Getting out helps. Like dad on the rain. Wonder how long it will take him to come get his stuff. Wonder if it's ambivalence or emotional avoidance or good old depression. Hard to say. Hope you have a good week.
Saturday was great. Loved the weekend of activities. I have decided that wonderful, thoughtful friends were trying to fill my weekend full of events since it was Mother's Day weekend. They're too good to me!
I don't know how long it will take for him to get his things. He still hasn't been this week, but he did text this yesterday: "Is the bed in the second bedroom the one that was mine?"
I wrote back, "Can't remember without looking. Why?"
He said, "Just trying to remember things"
I asked, "Do you need that bed?"
No response. I know he does not have the resources to get an apartment yet, and he's VERY comfortable at his mother's (and he has a bed to sleep in there). It's my opinion that he's trying to figure out exactly how much stuff he has, how long it will take him, and if he needs to borrow a truck. On the other hand, we have some friends that recently lost some things in the terrible storms that came through here, and I know he's provided them with some other things. Who knows??
Hi Number 8, I have been reading your thread for a couple of weeks and I admire your wonderful strength and humor (I am sure it doesn't come easy, but you are a model for me).
I don't feel competent to give advice (I am totally messed up and trying to figure things out: here's my recently posted thread ) but I just wanted to say that I am there with you. My husband is also depressed and has embarked on a path of destroying our marriage.
Your weekend sounds wonderful, and your laughter yoga spread its good results through the internet, as I had a good giggle myself, imagining all the things you had to do
Ha! I went off the grid for a few days. There were a few sunny moments over the last few days, so I used them to do some yard work and let Boxer dog run wild. I also had planned to do some posting here in the evening hours, but I fell asleep on the couch. In my clothes. For two nights in a row.
Oh, yes. Classy friends are capable of tackiness and crass behavior but managed to hold it together in chic restaurant.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Originally Posted By: Number 8
Black best friend too sassy to take to any kind of yoga
Laughter Yoga? This is wrong... just wrong... And, I'm w/Black best friend. Too dam* quiet. Too dam* focused. We just can't unleash our inner sass in a yoga studio. I tried once... Couldn't stand on one leg, too busy thinking about the Target run on the way home.
Mindfull, quiet and focus seem to be DIScouraged at laughter yoga. And no one was required to stand on one leg (good thing, since I'm clumsy on top of being scatterbrained). We WERE required to prance around with pretend feathers. Prancing is good for someone who does not have much natural balance. It allows you the freedom of stumbling and/or tripping in your sock feet. This brings up another requirement--no shoes at laughter yoga. Everyone knows shoes are NOT funny.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Originally Posted By: Number 8
Saturday afternoon: *pedicure and Chelsea Handler book *Target trip *quality time with iPod and lawnmower
Nix the lawnmower, and you have a perfect day, according to Mindfull... I have to get that new Chelsea Handler book. She, quite possibly, could hang w/us.
I reeeeeaaaaaallllly agree that we would be friends with Chelsea. Please get this book. It starts off with a bang (Chelsea discovering "the feeling" and then her quest to get a Cabbage Patch doll, which involves convincing her father to spend the money on one). It only gets better from there. Also, if you haven't read My Horizontal Life (her first one), I highly recommend it. Pure smutty enjoyment.
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Saturday night sounds divine!!!! What's wrong w/a few fanny slaps when harboring a depressed H? NOTHING! Stick your rear back out and enjoy. LOVE that the black best friend asked you to stop dancing. It has happened to me a time or two... usually after I start the head spins. I, just plain, do not listen, though, and continue...
Ha! Black best friend's comments sounded a little something like this: "Stop it. Stop. It. Now. Get over here. I said GET over here. Uh uh. Uh uh. No. Not just no, but hell, no. Come here. Now sit down, and don't get back up. Oh, you think you might need something? Then I'll get it for you. Keep your @$$ in that seat."
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Originally Posted By: Number 8
*ate burger, fries, and milkshake for dinner
It's about time you ate, for crying out loud...
I was all out of birdseed and sugar water. I had to eat SOMETHING.
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OK, on the Chats w/Father and Grandmother...
First of all, I just love that you wish him a Happy Mother's Day. LOL Appropriate!
What's funnier about this is that after I wished him a happy mother's day, he said, "Thank ye, baby doll." [Please note that I have used "ye" instead of "you" to account for regional pronunciation.]
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Originally Posted By: Number 8
Father uses H's name like it's a swear word or horribly offensive term.
That's his job, ma'am.
I didn't realize it, but you're right. A father's work is never done.
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My H uses HUH in the same manner as your Father. Nix the idea of Father and I bonding if he doesn't lose that habit!
I think you'll find it more endearing with my father. He's using those piercing blue eyes to stare a hole through you, and please don't forget that you're not expected to answer. Even if you did answer, he won't listen, and no answer will be the answer he wants to hear, anyway.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Originally Posted By: Number 8
*father asked, "When's it gonna rain again? Put his $h!+ outside! Tell him to COME ON!!"
I love this man.
THEN YOU'LL LOVE THIS-------
Father's most recent advice? "GET RID OF HIM! Throw this one back. You don't need this sumbi+ch. Throw him back. You can catch another one."
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TEN, there's a lot of freakin' reckoning going on... And, how dare you intrude on Grandmother's booty call!
I've just learned this morning that she has consented to have a meal with us this evening. After dinner, however, she's heading back to boyfriend's house to shack up with him again.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Originally Posted By: Number 8
Mindfull has ALL the best ideas!
Oh, God, you're doomed if you follow my lead! But, you'll have a hell of a lot of fun!
I'm already in too deep. But this summer is gonna rock. You'll visit, rr and I are thinking about a human/dog camping trip, and hot cops have reissued the offer for friends and me to do a ride-along one night.
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We really need to catch up, ya know?
After my excruciating family dinner, I'll have some time to chat. I'll need to vent after that, especially if boyfriend and lunatic uncle join us.
Hi Number 8, I have been reading your thread for a couple of weeks and I admire your wonderful strength and humor (I am sure it doesn't come easy, but you are a model for me).
Uh oh. I don't want to be responsible for bringing you over to the dark side.
Really, though, it's much more enjoyable to try to have a good sense of humor and find the funny things in all this. Sometimes they are few and far between, but they're always there.
I'm very lucky to have a wacky family to keep things interesting, too. My late maternal grandfather always said, "You can pick your friends, but there isn't a d@mn thing you can do about your relatives." I hear these words in my head AT LEAST once a week.
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I don't feel competent to give advice (I am totally messed up and trying to figure things out: here's my recently posted thread ) but I just wanted to say that I am there with you. My husband is also depressed and has embarked on a path of destroying our marriage.
Oh, I'm so sorry. I'm even sorrier that you know firsthand how painful it is to watch this person destroy things and be unaware that he has a part in it. I hate that my H doesn't realize the depths of his depression. It's been hard for me to accept that I can't help him, no matter how hard I try. Sucks.
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Your weekend sounds wonderful, and your laughter yoga spread its good results through the internet, as I had a good giggle myself, imagining all the things you had to do
It makes me laugh every time I remember it! I really laugh when I remember pretending to tickle my new large Soviet friend with a feather as he cackled loudly and squirmed. I'm laughing now as I type it.
. Way to go girl! I'm going to keep calling you 8 because it's lucky 
but I agree with Mindfull that you're a ten. 
