Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

Today is now a continuation of yesterday.

W comes home, I tell her how the dog hurt herself ect.. W goes up stairs and W said "you going somewhere?" I said "I thought we were going to visit you <fathers GF name> at the hospital" she said "I don't know yet, I am in an aggravated mood, I been in one since yesterday....I just want to know who said this"

Then she asks "any phone calls?" I said "you would be the first to know if I got a phone call" she replied "Let me find out you know who is telling her these things and your not telling me. It is better you tell me know then later."

I said "Who she has looking out for their marriage is beyond me, I told you everything that was said and how it came about, it caught me by surprise, according to them their marriage was going great and then this nonsense happens" and W says "Yeah and I want to know who"

The conversation carried on...W said "I work with these people an I think we are all civil and here they are talking behind my back, I want to know who it is so I can confront them or at least avoid them and know not to be around them"

Here is where I kind of applied pressure

I said "I dont know who it is, why would it matter, if there is nothing to hide or nothing going on then the person would have nothing to report to his W"

W responded "There is nothing going on that's the thing, a hi or bye ? cant even do that is how it is, so its like F-U and carry on?"

I said "TO be honest, I think that is the point they are trying to make, no communication."


I said "People talk, they say things, when they were saying how you were sleeping with him that did not phase you, you simply said 'people can say whatever they want' and now someone said you two were talking and you are extremely stressed over it, I don't get it, doe snot bother you they say you were having sex but does when they say you two are talking??"

W said "Now your getting ridiculous...I had an idea who was saying the stuff before, I don't know who is saying this now and I want to know who.."
Then I started to try to calm her "I hate seeing you like this, all stressed out, it is preventing you from living your life and doing things. You tell me how stressful this job is and how you hate it, why not get away from the stress? For years you said this job makes you miserable"

W said "your right and I am still there, cause there is nothing else"

I said "Move to a job less stressful, what is holding you back?"

W said "Because I need the money to pay bills"

I replied "There are far less stressful jobs out there that pay comparable"

W just gave me a look and said "I'm going to take a bath" and closed the door.... I said "OK, try and relax"


I am sure I left some out and I hope I handled this OK. I tried not to argue her feelings but make it a point this is what OMW/OM want...