I agree with futureunknown. I had to finally remove myself from the "toxic" R with my W for my own sanity and healing. It has been 1 month and I do feel a lot better. I was just tired of being the "gay boyfriend" as Puppy put it and when she finally chose to sleep with OM that was the last straw. I felt that I deserved better and had put up with a lot of crap for the past year and that I needed to look out for me because she wasn't and I was the only one who could.
I started being around people that wanted to be with me instead of trying to be with my W who didn't really want to be with me and she was "doing me a favor" by spending time with me. I had been spending the last 6 months focused on giving my W "space" and it finally dawned on me that I needed "space" to heal.
Just an explanation of my sitch and you have to do what is right for you. Best of luck!
I hear on "meetup.com" there are alot of groups for people to participate in various hobbies and the such. So this would be a good way to be around people who are doing what you want to do.
I'm glad you came to the conclusion that being around someone who doesn't want to be around you is unhealthy.
