My W is so withdrawn and detached from everything that she does nothing. She has abandoned the care of our pets including feeding, cleaning up after ect. She puts no effort into the upkeep of our home. She just eats, sleeps, watches TV...
Right... THAT is going to make that bad situation dissappear all right...
These people are right, she DOES need to get out of the bad situation. Anyone in a marriage dealing with painful issues needs to get out of THAT situation, but that does NOT mean to get out of the marriage. It means to active do everything you can to IMPROVE the QUALITY of the marriage.
Soon it may be time to start hitting her with a few simple direct points like that when she complains.
Not put meanly, but when she says she's not happy, rather than blaming you ask herself what SHE can do HERE to IMPROVE things for the two of you... she doens't look like she's doing anything. Yah I know she did for ten years...
Well, it helped her then, and NOW she doens't do it... so guess what... her DOING that again would likely help...
