Oh, believe me, I know this would be much better if X had dropped dead.
And not just for personal vindictive feelings. But for all the reasons you list, Gardener. The sympathy, the cassaroles. Never having to deal with seeing X with OW.
It would be complete, it would be closure, unless I was the one who crashed the car or accidentally poisoned the oatmeal, there would be no guilt no remorse, etc.
I had the idea of sitting shiva for the death of the R. In this case, visitors would be ENCOURAGED to speak ill of the dead!
I doubt that at this time frame I would get much time/support from friends for a week of sackcloth and ashes, but the idea does have appeal.
A week of just wallowing. Being supported. Not having to go to work all chip chip cheerio. Yup. Sounds good.
Yep, often think it would've been easier if she'd died suddenly. And your sackcloth and ashes party sounds a fantastic idea. I'm sure there'd be more laughs and fake sorrow than real at such an event!
I'm at a difficult stage now. I have not a single real life person left who supports anything other than forgetting it and moving right on. The fight is indeed becoming more tiresome, more solo and more effort to continue. It would be so much easier to stamp on that last bit of hope and put it out forever. I just don't seem to be *quite* ready to do it today.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
