I have come home to an emptied house....What next?

[Gynandtonix]

Well I have boys now till Monday am when I take them to school.
I asked for this and she agreed.



The first tears I have shed where when I hugged the boys for the first time since the split.

Me and the WAW spoke.
It was mainly a cordial blame game type conversation.
When she rose her voice a little I told her to stop with the aggression and to lower her voice.
When she swore, I told her to stop swearing.

When She started to nit pick, I told her to stop. I asked if she wanted to have conversations where all we did was get angry and raise our voices, swear ect, or did she want to keep out of the blame game and keep it cordial?
She agreed to stop the agression and keep it cordial.

I simply told her to stop just blaming me and to look at herself as well.

I asked her how this is a better arragement, than her being here and working on it.

I asked how is this better for the boys.

I asked her to tell me what she had done to repair our M.

She had no answers.

All she does is blame me, I just want to hear her accept her role and involvement in all this.

She did get very angry when I spoke about how this was planned and executed - she especially disliked it when I said that she had been scheming behind my back.

When she left she was angry and a little upset - perhaps not the best frame of mind for her to leave in with regards to our R. But this will be forgotten in the comming months I am sure.

Basically I will not allow her to just blame me and allow her to ease her mind.

I will not not allow her to dominate me in anything, and nor will I sugar coat things as well.
I will not allow myself to choose the words or actions that I will only do to smooth the waters and not upset her, so to speak.

If I have to upset her, then tough.

She told me that she still loves me.
She is still wearing her wedding rings.
She said she didn't want to do this and that it should never have come to this.

She needs to accept that it has come to this stage, and accept her part in all this mess.

Time to enjoy my time with the boys and try and put her out of my mind.

Wedding ring will stay on for now. My actions will remain at the same level as hers for now.

Changing the locks is an option, but this will be done when things turn really nasty. Again keeping things to the same level for now.

Regards,
Gyn.