Hey friend. I am watching your thread. You are doing great.
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Yes, she is still unhappy, and will likely continue to be until she deals with her drinking problem, and gets back on her meds. So, of course, its not about me.
...is a VERY important and big step. Because it frees you from blaming yourself and driving yourself crazy trying to fix YOU for HER. Not saying not to work on improving you or that we LBS's are blameless. Just that reaching the understanding that this mess is less about you than you first thought (so did I) is a milestone on the road to recovery for YOU.
Keep focusing on understanding yourself. Your needs, wants, desires, fears about the future. Once you truly understand yourself, you will know what it is you want out of life. And if I've learned one thing from this experience, it is THAT. If I know what I want from life, then working towards that allows me to be truly happy.
