I think this is my home for the next 6 months...

[lalxx]

Hello Shelbel,
I have a 24 hour rule when it come to my husband - my situation is so very similiar to yours - I am in NC unless it is about our 3 children - if i receive an e-mail or text from my husband I read it then file away for 24 hours before I respond, when I revisit it if I still feel any negative emotions I give it another 24 hours and so on until I can respond to my husband in a calm, balanced and dignified way.

I also have a 9 o'clock rule - if something gets to me during the day I say 'worry about this after 9pm when the kids are in bed' - if the issue still irks me then I'll deal with it BUT it is amazing just how few issues still cause me grief after 9pm!

You are doing really well - reading up on evreything you can about MLC will help you enormously - I would always grab my "Lifesaver" folder and read it ferociously if I ever felt like contacting my husband in some way - it helped educate myself and steered me away from the dangerous rocks of my husband and his MLC behaviour!

((hugs))

lalxx