I have come home to an emptied house....What next?

[Awoken]

Turns out she was not planning for the boys to sleep over tonight.

I haven't read your entire sitch, but are you making these decisions without legal counsel? If you haven't already, start interviewing lawyers first thing. Many will give you the first meeting for free. I think you need to get some information so that you can protect your family. Just the fact that your boys are having to ask to sleep in their own home is a problem.

I don't know what the marital laws are in your state. In mine, all property and money acquired during the marriage are considered shared. When I separated our accounts, I took exactly half the money, as advised by my lawyer. I waited to close the credit cards, and I regret it (puppy had recommended it). Eventually I was forced to cancel all the shared cards as well. I suggest you open a new account for yourself, and transfer half of the money. When you see a L, they can tell you if you can take more.

I doubt that your wife had the right to take all the boys stuff. You need a record of what exactly was taken. She may not have the right to uproot them this way. She is presuming that she gets custody. Men have more rights now days than they used to. Often, the parent that remains in the home gets some custodial preference, as the courts recognize how hard it is on the children being torn out of the home they are used to. I'm not sure how you should handle this, I would be concerned about letting her set how custody is going to handled. I think you should insist on equal time with your kids.

Protect your family by protecting your money, assets, and your time with your sons. I think you need legal help to do this.

I'm sorry for where you are; hang in there.