I look at Flowmom - her thread is called embracing change - and I think, that's it. that's what I have to do. Embrace change, b/c the old life is over. But 1st I have to grieve it before I can embrace it. I think.
I'm going to respectfully disagree with you LFA . Grieving will take me years. And change is happening/has happened whether I'm ready or not. The only choice I have is whether to embrace change or refuse to accept it...as I continue grieving.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. Grieving will take me years. And change is happening/has happened whether I'm ready or not. The only choice I have is whether to embrace change or refuse to accept it...as I continue grieving. 
