He is still in therapy, I'm pretty sure. I believe that because he told his sister that he should have gone to therapy a long time ago. (Agreed!) He told her then he has never missed a session.
As I mentioned before, I credit the therapist to helping him with getting the baby a gift, getting me a mother's day gift, and this idea for us hanging out as a family. I hope they're delving into more serious stuff, though!
I am so happy not hearing about him. Even just hearing that tid bit from his sister about "am i ready to see him?" really threw me off.
I like it (not worrying about HIM-- much), but it's still just really hard keeping a positive mindset.
Since I wonder how similar our WH's are, P, I'm going to try to describe mine here in some bullets. Tell me what is like your WAH! And of course BD and NM, too.
(For organization's sake, it's going to go from traits I didn't like and didn't mesh with to ones I liked and worked well with.)
+ Easily is the most popular guy and the 'life of the party' + Spent money frequently, although he tried to be moderate + Often talked about his physical ailments "tired" "exhausted" "sinuses" "neck" "back" + Irritable at times-- to the extreme! + Anxious about his social status, future + Insecure about his looks (no reason to be), his voice, things he said, what people thought + Read a lot of philosophy and could really hold his own in intellectual conversations (and can make people believe him when he really doesn't know what he's talking about! he just makes up stuff and speaks with confidence! ha ha!) + Cared a lot for people in need; almost never passed a homeless person without giving something + Loved the kids at my school (and they still know nothing about what happened because they love him) + Liked to go on walks, go to museums, travel, watch educational shows + Interested in being healthy: eating right, exercising + Extremely hard worker; worked his a** off in grad school to get the job he now has
With the good ones at the end, we basically matched each other. He didn't like how I was more of a wallflower than the life of the party, how I tried to be frugal with money (although he agreed; it was just an internal struggle for him); how i wouldn't 'take care' of him when he was sick (i was like-- you're FINE); and he also took out his insecurities on me. For example, if we went out and my coat had one pocket in and one out, he would try to fix it. My hair, whatever. Because I was a reflection on him and he was insecure.
It kinda sounds like I'm dissing him, but really I'm acknowledging what I've always known and have dismissed. It's very important that in future relationships, I pay attention to these types of things.
All right, guys, let's see how similar these WAHs are!
