AJM - They want to have the best of both words...cake eating is right.

Libby - I can see him being upset that I'm ignoring him. We will see if he lets me know. Well he has the OW to listen to him complain about me.

lalxx - Since the bomb I've observed that the "seesaw" effect works with us to some degree, but not enough to bring him back. I've noticed that when I "cool off" towards him he reaches out to me more...but as I said not enough to make any difference to the situation with OW.

I still think that being dark at this particular time is the right decision for me...I have to find my footing again. As for the long run, friendly with boundaries would be more "true" to me. I also believe that they have to see you as the person they would want to be with (person they fell in love with in the first place) to turn back to you.

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO