still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

NM, sorry if I have missed a beat along the way, but what exactly are your H's flaws (as you see them)?

Why is he a 'wounded bird'?

The only flaws that I see in WH, and I am not putting him on a pedestal here, are that

1)he is insecure when it comes to making friends-not in an arrogant, jerk way (you know those types) but in a shy way. This is his wounded bird side because I suspect he was a victim of bullying or something in his life at one time! He does have a few friends from childhood (I met them when we were dating!) but he claimed to have grown apart from them during our marriage.

2)He is more of a listener than a talker

3)he doesn't like to go to festivals/events because they are so crowded

4)obviously he doesn't let me know about his feelings!

So I would like the record to show that I have brought him out of his shell BIG TIME- his confidence grew so much during our relationship and marriage that he started to become closer to his friends from work (i.e. we would do things with the other couples and he would do things with the guys) and would be open to meeting strangers at get togethers we attended. Unfortunately, OW was a "friend" from work too!

His funny and witty personality shone through and he started to be known as my "funny husband"

I do appreciate good listeners but one of my LLs is conversation. What is funny, though, is that lately I have met some men (not through dating) that liked to talk...about their opinions and themselves, not about life, current events, various topics etc. My WH would talk about those things with me but just had a few statements to say, not expand and explain and justify, which is what I would like more of. So I don't know if the grass is greener in the conversation aspect with other men. I would take a listener again!! I guess I need to learn how to better draw them out, ask different q's to find out more on how they think or why they think or how they feel...

Hey if I am willing to learn to swim and even go on a roller coaster one day, he can go to a freakin' crowded festival with me! He isn't afraid of the crowds, it is because the parking is hard to find, the lines are longer, and everything takes longer! Tough!