~~~I think that is the hardest part in all of this, is knowing that it's okay to say I still love him. So many people IRL just want to start a "let's bash H!!" party. Let's not. You bash him, you bash me because my heart is still very much walking around in his body. I don't have to hate him just because other people *hate* their spouses/xspouses. Still loving someone who has gone off the deep end doesn't make me weak. Or stupid. Or delusional.
: )
Good for you.
I remember telling my friends and family once they told me what they thought I should do, thank you, but here is what I am going to do, and I NEED your support with what I want to do, not what you want me to do. If I cannot have that from you then, I do not need your advice or 'help' and we will not talk about my marriage. My goals mght change later but right now I am going to need your support and help me when I want to give up.
I am impressed Shel.
So...
Why Shelbel?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
