quote]aver, There have been interesting posts on these boards as well as mention in the Abandonment To Healing book about how widowhood would almost have been "better":
-S, M & R are dead to LBS. Pain is no different, even greater it can be argued. Family/friends would gather 'round, tighten the circle. Instead of rapidly dispersing There would be rituals, formal closure, acknowledgment of "anniversaries" People would call, visit, "check up: constantly. Willingness to understandingly listen to just abut anything you have to say about the situation. The pain is understood and comforted and acknowledged that it will be so for a long time. Sympathy, empathy, commiserating. Casseroles.
The very real list goes on and on
^^^ So true Gardener! I just think maybe people don't know how comfort us.
But maybe it says something good about us LBS that we're not driving people away or guilting them into feeling sorry for us! We're a pretty fierce, kick a** bunch wouldn't you say?
