Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

Alright...

W came home from work. I said "There is something I would like to talk to you about."

We go upstairs and sit down on the bed. I told her the following

"I got a call from rob, at first I did not know it was, he said he was calling because his W had just called him, hysterical, talking about how you two are still talking"

My W had this look of shock in her eyes.

I went on to say

"He admitted, that you two are still talking, not like it was but still having conversations"

Now my W is filing her nails, something she does when she gets stressed out...

and said "yeah nothing like it was"

I said, the point is, he made a commitment to his W that he would end all communication with you and he failed to do that, and she found out now she is very upset.

My W started to talk about OMW as if she knows something I don't. W became very upset, I could see it in her face and detect it in her voice she wanted to cry.

W started to say how she does not understand why OMW won't just leave her alone ect.

I said "She is trying to protect her marriage, she sees you as a threat, it also sounds like he is trying to work on his marriage as well, he told me what he did for her for his W birthday and for mothers day, he said things were going great in his marriage till today"

W once again ignored what OM had said and went back to talking about OMW.

somewhere in our conversation I mentioned protecting our marriage and she said "That's nothing" as if it did not matter.

Also when I said how OM and OMW talked about how good their marriage is going and OMW is protecting her marriage my W said "Well I'm glad THEY'RE marriage is happy but what does that have to do with me, I'm sick of people watching over me"

I said to W "From what I was told, he is not going to speak to you anymore, not even a "hi" ." and she shrugged her shoulders and said "fine"

I then said "Since we are on this topic I want to tell you something that was said at the party a couple weeks back when your co-workers were there..." I went on to tell her how other people they work with try to distance themselves form him because he a chronic liar and bullsh*ter. Then I gave a specific example, one of which he has been feeding my W that is a lie, so I pretty much revealed the truth to her via 3rd party perspective.

W wanted to know who said this or what did they look like, I told he I don't remember because there was a group of us standing talking and I was focused on the hockey game at the time.

W very upset with OMW but not OM, she just does not get it.

W, as far as I can tell, does not suspect that I had anything to do with this or at least she did not lash out at me.

I started to talk to W about job application she should complete, telling her it is the opportunity she had been waiting for, don't let it pass her by, she worked too hard on her education not to apply. She gave in and we started to fill out the application...turns out due to residency requirements her application was rejected.

W then started to tell me a few things that happened at work today, just dumb people as she would put it...

We talked about how stressful her job is...

W said some woman told her "You have a great figure" I said to my W "She is right, you do."

I then had to run a few errands, W asked in my travels if I could pick up something for her...

W was conviced that OMW/OM would call back and asked that I leave my phone, so I told W to give me her phone, W said she wanted to hold onto all three. I said "let me see your phone" she opened it up and showed me her recent call history and said "I have nothing to hide"

I knew she was hiding something but I held back and said nothing


I left and returned an hour or so later, W was laying in bed, looking down and out. We had a brief convo about a couple things and here we are now....

I kept a very cool head through it all, W did not lash out at me but was VERY upset with OMW, she also seems depressed now.

I pretty much made it so that ALL pressure was coming from OMW. I did not want to stir things up between her and I.

I stayed calm and upbeat, I hope I did well and got the point across...I am sure I am leaving things out...