W just told me she wants out

[fudwoman]

Just butting in here for a second - my H and I also are completely not touching. I'm trying hard to work on making him feel safe so I don't push it. I know my H well enough to know that when he feels unsafe there is absolutely NO physical contact. There are no other people in our situation so that's not the issue behind the lack of physical intimacy. I just want to bring that into the discussion to underscore the point that no touch does not equate to there being a third party.

In the meantime Bobby - it sucks to be in limbo-land where every day and often several times within the day it's hard to tell exactly if things are stable, moving toward something good or continuing to head south.

I feel for ya.
A.