I have been trying to decide if I should call the OMW to see what is going on. I have not called because I do not want to waste my time.
I know the focus should be on me right now and my M, not his. I will decide soon.
LSG,
I was thinking about this point,when I'm figuring out how the hell I can communicate with my most likely soon to be ex-wife. Since I had done an affair in a past relationship I know the mindset and how hard it is to penetrate.
The message can come from other people. Also their affair needs to be broken, it helps if she's dumped horribly and embarrassed behind the event. Also if life events that occur that show that its much easier, cheaper and better for her to stay committed to the marriage.
Right now while she has that alternate life that she prefers to stay in, all of us are stuck until something happens.
The odds say we aren't going to talk this change into them, nor will anyone else. Something has to happen. And they will not usually come to their senses. What they are doing feels really good to them.
