Had a good lunch w/ W - kept the conversation light and talked a bit about some of my needs (for time away/alone, etc.)...broke out of detachment mode a little bit too much (multiple kisses goodbye), but otherwise good.
She did ask me how I thought "things" were going (I said "OK", which felt a little deceptive) and that I had gone to see our MC this week (when she asked - told her I didn't bring up as I knew she was busy/stressed this week).
In my IC session yesterday, she does feel like I need to "push" her a little bit into MC (told her I'm letting this breathe for a couple of weeks at least through her huge work thing next weekend).
Also talked with her about why I accepted this behavior throughout our marriage (it not being about me much, which was my fault, not my W's as I didn't ask for any of that, losing myself in work/my kids as a way to avoid my M) as a "second class citizen" to everyone else. Agreed that detaching and figuring out what I want/need makes the most sense now (and to be a little bit more narcissitic/selfish was a good "180" for me).
Is also encouraging me to be more physical around her, which I have been doing (as I'm in the best shape of my life - started weight training about a year ago but lost about 15 lbs. in the last few months so look as good as I ever have)!
