I understand the anniversary thing...my H left after my nieces wedding (actually left me at her wedding, kissed me good bye and said he would see me for dinner and then never came home!)...this was only 6 months before our 25th! We were making plans for a cruise to some tropical location, I had already talked to someone about making a cake, I was planning our first ever anniversary party!...At time it still bugs me that he picked that time to leave...Well when our anniversary came around...nothing...no phone call, no email, no nothing! I don't know that he was thinking of me...as he was usually out drinking and partying or sleeping it off in his beach apartment... I think they work really really hard to not remember or think about us when they are gone...really, how could they? My H drank, that was his method of forgetting (that and OW while it lasted)...for yours it might be his cdg...maybe that is why he seems so over the top in everything these days...when you are running and trying to hide from yourself it can be a pretty tricky run, you know? Let me know how things go with your D...I do believe sharing some of the more insightful posts...like the ones with MLC scripts, crazy behavior, stuff like that, really helped my D's to see that their dad was truly in a state of mental illness and made it easier, I think, to forgive when he came home.
