Thanks Allen. I was hoping you, PDT, or a few of the others familiar with busting these things up would weigh in.
My instincts say she is, and she's lying. There are a few other things that have happend, that would have been clear signs I was being paranoid, but they didn't help the perception I have and don't look good for her story...
Above all I want to save my marriage, preserve my family, and protect my son.
Do you think I should contact her and let her know her explanation thus far is inadequate and doesn't address the real question about what he was doing there, what's going on and how it impacts our son?
Roomate is no ally. I might be able to ask her directly, but I would expect she'd lie for my wife. She's already been divorced.
