Imalright is right about acting as if.

I was full of doom and gloom, felt like my life was over, even contemplated suicide at one time. Then I turned everything over to the Lord. I prayed that it is in his hands, he knows what is best, and I prayed that his will is for us to be back together. although we are not back yet, we are much better off then just a few weeks ago. There are things you cannot control. YOU CAN control yourself and your actions. Be the person you want your spouse to be around, and proud to be seen with. You really know what the right things to do are, as we all do.