A big bloke type hug - you know the one, where we hug but stick our bottoms out so our groins don't touch.....chuckle
Regards, Gyn
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
Unfortunately the banks are closed at the moment, but in the morning I intend to change the bank details. I justify this by reasoning this will safeguard my home, and so my boys will always have somewhere to come.
Gyn, there is no need to justify your actions to this woman in her current state of run-away-ness. Your only justification is "I have decided that ________," or "It's what I decided," or "I felt this was best for me," or "I did what I felt I needed to do" or something very similar.
Your wife is destroying her marriage, and potentially good-sized pieces of your sons' hearts. YOU are not the one doing this, and YOU don't need to justify your actions to someone who is on this path.
Your wife is destroying her marriage, and potentially good-sized pieces of your sons' hearts. YOU are not the one doing this, and YOU don't need to justify your actions to someone who is on this path.
Damn skippy!!! creamy or with nuts.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Sometimes you cant see the forest for the trees....
I agree wholeheartedly.
Thanks for the clarity.
I have re-read my posts and I was surprised by an omission of mine.....
My plan was not formed around 'winning' her back or trying to please her. It was about me and my boys.
Just me and the boys.
Damn it was a good bike ride...here comes the hug again....
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
2/ Sort out some sleeping arrangements for my boys.(they have no bed)
Are you saying that she removed their bedroom furniture from your home without asking you? I'm assuming this was purchased by both of you? Why did she just assume she could take it along with any other contents of the house without asking? Especially when you weren't home?! That borders on theft, it's certainly disrespectful.
Have you taken an inventory of what was taken? Are you in agreement with it?
Everything was taken whilst I was out earning a penny to provide..
Theft? Certainly removed without consent. There is nothing of hers, but more tellingly, 95% of the boys stuff has gone - clothes, bed, school stuff...
Tells me she is gone, big time.
This was planned between her and the outlaws, sorry in-laws.
last time she left, she complained that I did nothing to make it easier for her to move the boys between us... Now she has taken it upon herself to control the boys
This is a long time move on her behalf.
In her mind it is final.
I do not agree with this...
But it is time to protect me & the boys, and move from the comfort zone of 'what is best for the family' to 'what is best for me and the boys'.
One path took me here... I hope I have your support in finding the better way for me and my boys.
Regards, Gyn.
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.
Well this may suck to hear it, I would probably call the police, tell them what happened, file a report, ask them if there is anything that can be done, honestly I would be dumbfounded by this situation if my wife had done this to me.
Without a formal agreement to split up whatever property you accumulated while married, I don't think she has the right to take whatever she took from the marital home which is where you live right now.
She's free to leave, that's her choice. But taking everything with her? I don't think that's right.
Specifically the kids stuff, clothes, she could have taken half and left you with half.
Are you guys going to be swapping laundry back and forth?
Probably not.
Where the kids will sleep, not sure how old they are but for the time being, let them sleep in your bed until you get some new bedroom furniture. I don't know what your financial situation is like right now and what money you have available but get that account situation fixed tomorrow so that she doesn't rob you blind, alot of WAW's will spend every penny they can get a hold of, you've been warned. It might not be a bad idea to remove the money in the account to prevent her from going hogwild with it, she cleaned out your home effectively, the bank account will be next. Go to an atm and clean it out, open a new account at another bank and deposit it there and get yourself a new bank card something she won't have access to.
What about the rest of the house, what else did she take? Take an inventory, you will need it, do it now while this is all still fresh, pull out the digital camera, take pics of everything.
I think the police report is a good idea, at least to document this, don't be afraid of pushing her away, taking from you without asking is disrespectful, setting a boundary and telling her that this is unacceptable is a start, enforcing that boundary will come afterward.
