Took my wife for granted, now she is done. help!

[Tattoo_you]

Thanks coach,

I think that may work.

Any others with advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Tattoo_you]

Coach,

do you suggest having that conversation in person? I haven't been bringing up R talk and just waiting for her to do it (which is few and far between).

Can I just mention it to her very sincerely and then go about my day?

[Coach]

Can I just mention it to her very sincerely and then go about my day?

Yep, just say "I was thinking about what you said the other day. This is what I really think......"

Your W wants to know you are thinking about her. Then you keep moving because you are a busy man.

[Tattoo_you]

Thanks so much. I will see W later tonght and I'll see what happens.

[Tattoo_you]

Feeling really nervous about seeing W and bringing up the new things ive learned about myself. Man, I love her soo much and I know I've been a bonehead but I've grown soo much in the last two weeks. I know it sounds rediculous but I feel like such a potenially more aware and responsible partner. I wish she we soften her heart for just a second to see it. This pain in my stomach is unbearable.

Sorry for venting, I just am trying to be so postive and strong in front of her and at work I have to be super tough and "cool" all the time. I never have anywhere to let it all out.

[Tattoo_you]

Well, told W about my new discoveries, she cried as did I, and then thanked me for all the work I've been doing around the house. Then we watched tv and talked and it was fine.

Right before she went to bed, she told me she ran into a guy that we both know (and frankly don't like, either of us) and she said he offered to sleep with her twice!!! WTF! Is she acting out and looking for a reaction? I just kind of listened then walked away.

I'm so confused, any ideas?

[cesco]

I believe her telling you is a test for you on your reaction. Some of the more experienced would have to say more about it. I don't believe she is interested in this guy because she told you about him.
I think she is trying to make you think something that is not.
My 2cents

[Tattoo_you]

I think you are right, I just need to stay the course and keep being positive, right?

How would others have reacted?

[konfuseeed]

My wife says the same types of things and I just assume its her testing me.

She makes it a point to always tell me how she has to do everything alone now after our separation.

I take it as either she is trying to tell me there is no other dude, or there IS another dude and shes trying to keep me away from finding out.

Or something.


Maybe I think too much...

[TimeHeals]

She could just be trying to tell you that she can take care of herself.

That's the thing about 'mind reading': we filter it through our own perceptions.