Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
But....let me know when the rioting is over. LOL. Big hugs.
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Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Get a tattoo, name your car, or buy a t-shirt that reads: Intrepid
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I dont know if it is courage for having to talk with OM (old man) Ed. I had the big phone call early on with him to reassure myself that he was not some sort of pervert as I was most concerned about my daughter being around him. Nowdays when we see each other we just say "hi" and that is about as much as I want to talk to him.
Frank - I started watching some of "The Secret" last night. It is mostly BS that there is some secret that has been kept from people. Basically, the underlying message is one that I have always lived my life as - keep a positive mental attitude and good things will happen. Dwelling on bad thoughts and bad things happen. Optimism vs Pessimism. Your last post is much more optimistic and that attitude will be the way to go forward following the breakup of your family.
Jealousy, yes, normal. It is alien, unwanted by us. I admit my humanity by still wanting to bash his girlfriend in the head with a bat (of course I won't, but the feeling is there). Shake her hand? I think not - I guess I am not that evolved, and I'm ok with that.
I am sorry about your DS...I remember getting the kids established with their own IC before the divorce was final, so they had someone outside of the fray to talk to. They have both adjusted well....even though my S14 has told me in confidence that he will never understand why his father made the decisions he did, and wishes he would at least live alone rather than with the girlfriend and her 4 kids. I have come to look at it through my own familiar lens - there were many decisions that my own parents made that I didn't agree with or downright hated. It didn't make me love them any less, but I used it as a lesson learned.
So, what are your plans? With the kids? More importantly, when you are on your own?
I'm surprised that I have had to shake myself up a bit (so easy to get into a rut and just sit around and do nothing) - so I went to meetup and found a book club and an artist group for figure drawing, might do a hike in the near future. Something on your bucket list?
