Can't type as much for awhile- forearms sore. Few brief notes:

- see your doc re: anti-depressants. Even for temp use they can make a world of difference. Hey, is it self-reporting for the pilot's license? Let's just say that I have a friend w/ a hobby like that and you can choose what you want to share on the app. Also, therapy may be at least partly covered under your insurance- check it out. There are ways to code visits and diagnoses that do not say "depression". Go in as someone having marital comm issues and tell therapist you need that on the insurance forms. The depression will be discussed as a side effect of the primary issues. If they won't work with you on the code, find someone else. When we went to MC, she coded it with the "V" codes- this is more of an adjustment/ relationship problem description and any IC should be aware of these codes. She specifically said she would change the code to some other appropriate one (there's often more than one that logically fits) if our insurance didn't cover it under the first, so there is wiggle room here. I actually recommend if you can go in w/dep not being the presenting problem, as it may follow you around on insurance issues, etc. forever. But do NOT take that as a reason to not seek treatment, please.
- how long does her IC see her working on other issues before sex? could be years!
- Affecting kids- does she get that? That that is a HUGE reason to work on things as quickly as possible- not only for her and IC but for you as a couple? Can you get through to her that way?

When the men on the chessboard
Get up and tell you where to go;
And you've just had some kind of mushroom
And your mind is moving slow;
Go ask Alice...
I think she'll know.