I cannot imagine wanting to be friends with my STBXW. If I cannot be friends with her again, how on earth could we ever have a marriage? Must I go through a period of being friends with her in order to reconcile? Could I do that? Right now, I don't think so.
The status quo is comfortable. My life undisturbed by her and OW. Does this mean today I'm detached? Will I still feel detached tomorrow? Who knows?
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
