Arg. Crashing a little today. Seems the chatter in my mind is subsiding, and now feeling it a little more. Well, inevitable I suppose.
Realize that I'm coping partially by talking, talking, talking to other people. Yeah, yesterday I belched up quite a bit on my thread here. That's good I suppose, exorcising. Guess I also need to experience the quiet and aloneness, so maybe swinging back to that now.
It helps to talk. Talk to us and try not to talk to the people in your area too much. Definately clear up any misperceptions before they can snowball on you.
Originally Posted By: Geronimo
It is weird, to pick them up and drop them off without talking to her. I suppose that's what a lot of you guys have experienced as a matter of course. And it is good, to continue to remove her and the D situation from the forefront of my life.
We all need new focus points, new destinations. The M and resultant D is put behind us, and hopefully we can forget about it. Its not helpful to go there. She made her choice and thats why you are at where you at, treat her like a ex-wife.
Originally Posted By: Geronimo
Took the boys to their school open house last night. Funny, ran into some mutual friends, the husband shook my hand enthusiastically and said hello, the wife wouldn't even look at me. Funny how people respond. And again, knowing the nature of the things XW has said to her friends, I had that moment of - That's really not cool. I'm going to be raising my kids in this community. But honestly it doesn't matter.
I don't understand this portion. During the affairs and after the D, people will side with who they are going to side with. You'll be surprised at how many women will co-operate with a cheating wife in your situation, where you where the one getting shafted. However the flipside of this is, women who where crossed with your ex, may be very receptive to you now. You know better than us, you have to stay positive and my thing is pretty much its going to be easier to do right by most people and to distance myself from people I can't do this with.
You sound experienced and I know you'll be sending solutions to the rest of us to ensure you remain a positive role in your childrens life.
