Just found out she already filed

[alice444]

[quote=StupidRomeo]Like today, I went to lunch with the guys on my team but was mostly quiet and listening to them talking about the games etc. Then after a meeting I talked to this new girl at work on the way back to my office- I just struck up a conversation with her and it went fine. Now what? lol

LOVE the cooking class idea. Go do it and report back.

Now what? you ask? Ah, I do have practice being the shy person who forces her way into the social network. Here are some ideas:

- become the center of something so you either have no excuse not to go or people seek you out. E.g., I volunteered to coordinate our monthly mom's night out in my mom's group so I have to go and people look to me to organize. Now I love it! For you, what about starting a weekly lotto ticket buying pool? You collect money from the guys at work, buy however many tickets it buys and then split the proceeds. Every week people will stop by your cube to bring you a buck- or you have to make the rounds- and it's a chance to practice small talk for a few minutes. They will also think you're very cool for initiating this.

What about organizing an offsite or suggesting to your boss something like laser tag or paint ball as a "team building" exercise some Friday afternoon?

Or what about the monthly poker/game night I mentioned to you? Guys only, if the couples thing is too weird. Eat manly food and smoke cigars. OR, if they have trouble getting time away from the family, win over their wives in the process by organizing a dads and kids outing- to the beach, a park, the zoo, anywhere. The kids run around and you guys watch them from a bench, talking about masculine things . If you're really on the ball and these wives are friends, you men arrange for the ladies to go get a massage or pedicures or something while you guys are gone. THEN, you know what? The wives will like YOU, Romeo, and the fact that you helped give them a weekend day off, and THEN broach the monthly poker/game night and they'll be more inclined to let the dudes out for a night . Whaddya think?

You have a bike- are there any local motorcycle clubs around? C'mon, you must have some interests! Name some for us- ones that have absolutely zero to do with STBXW (per my email) in any shape or form.