still separated, headed for D?

[WhatNow]

I believe most people bop along thru life carrying a load they don't realize is there until something happens that brings it to the top.

Yes you could cope w/ his issues, IF you knew what they were.

Sue Johnson wrote a book, "Hold me Tight", based on her emotionally focused therapy. Many Marriage and Family therapists are trained in this these days. I liked it b/c it points out pitfalls and how to avoid them. It is not about affairs, but recovering closeness. It gave me hope that if he ended his affair, we could recover our R.