My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[Allen A]

Yup... Ken, don't TELL your WIFE yoru PLANS... WHATEVER reaction you THINK you might get.. it WON'T HAPPEN... So STOP it.

YOu are LOOKING for a specific reaction from your wife when you give away your plans like that I know it... Do NOT expect anything but negativity and destructive behaviour, tantrums, lies, pouting, and eventually crying...

Stop pursuing your wife through this stuff, it IS pursuit, you are trying to get an emotional reaction..

MWD calls it temperature taking in her book... You are trying to take a temerature or reading of her emotions and the state of your marriage by poking at her with info ...

STOP IT.

The TELLING your wife you are doing something is NOT going to change things.. its in teh DOING.. its ALWAYS in the DOING... and it takes weeks for a reaction to kick in even AFTER you do it...