Goodgirl, I just think that the stuff about you paying back for the wedding and rings being given back...it's sheer nonsense. I am sorry you have Inlaws that are like that-- YIKES!!!
Your H didn't marry this type of person and I think you modeled more reasonable attitudes about posessions and money--I think he *knows* there is something screwy about his parents' way of thinking. You guys have helped them out financially and he knows you have completely different ideas.
Unfortunately, they have his ear and he doesn't really have anyone else right now. And perhaps co-dependence issues.
But that may work out in your favor I think! I hope they are talking about it nonstop--and I think your H may get SICK of it!! He didn't want to be with anyone like that in the long run. That's why he married you.
I know he looks like he is going along with it, but deep down Goodgirl, I don't think this is how he really is. Would you agree?
Anyway, DO NOT give back the ring, and make sure to protect yourself.
Maybe a letter on your anniversary would be good telling him what that ring means to you and you treasure it as the best GIFT you ever received.
